Thursday, November 13, 2003
a lesson for all
i've read this before, but i came across it again courtesy of marianne (saturday, november 8 entry).
it's a long list, what do you take out of it at this time in your life?
I HAVE LEARNED…
...that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.
...that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.
...that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
...that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you'd better know something.
...that you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do.
...that it's not what happens to people that's important. It's what they do about it, but do the best you can do.
...that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
...that no matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides.
...that it's a lot easier to react than it is to think.
...that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
...that you can keep going long after you think you can't.
...that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
...that either you control your attitude or it controls you.
...that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.
...that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
...that learning to forgive takes practice.
...that there are people who love you dearly, but just don't know how to show it.
...that money is a lousy way of keeping score.
...that my best friend and I can do anything, or nothing, and have the best time.
...that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.
...that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
...that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.
...that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
...that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them, and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.
...that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed it.
...that your family won't always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't biological.
...that no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
...that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
...that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.
...that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
...that sometimes when my friends fight, I'm forced to choose sides even when I don't want to.
...that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.
...that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions.
...that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
...that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
...that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
...that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.
...that there are many ways of falling and staying in love.
...that no matter the consequences, those who are honest with themselves get farther in life.
...that no matter how many friends you have, if you are their pillar you will feel lonely and lost at the times you need them most.
...that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.
...that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.
...that writing, as well as talking, can ease emotional pains.
...that the paradigm we live in is not all that is offered to us.
...that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.
...that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.
...that although the word "love" can have many different meanings, it loses value when overly used.
...that it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people's feelings and standing up for what you believe.
...that it's not what you have in your life, but who you have in your life that counts.
-Author Unknown
it's a long list, what do you take out of it at this time in your life?
I HAVE LEARNED…
...that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.
...that no matter how much I care, some people just don't care back.
...that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.
...that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you'd better know something.
...that you shouldn't compare yourself to the best others can do.
...that it's not what happens to people that's important. It's what they do about it, but do the best you can do.
...that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
...that no matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides.
...that it's a lot easier to react than it is to think.
...that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.
...that you can keep going long after you think you can't.
...that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
...that either you control your attitude or it controls you.
...that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.
...that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
...that learning to forgive takes practice.
...that there are people who love you dearly, but just don't know how to show it.
...that money is a lousy way of keeping score.
...that my best friend and I can do anything, or nothing, and have the best time.
...that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down will be the ones to help you get back up.
...that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
...that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.
...that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
...that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them, and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.
...that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed it.
...that your family won't always be there for you. It may seem funny, but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love you and teach you to trust people again. Families aren't biological.
...that no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.
...that it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
...that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.
...that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
...that sometimes when my friends fight, I'm forced to choose sides even when I don't want to.
...that just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other. And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.
...that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions.
...that we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
...that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
...that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
...that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.
...that there are many ways of falling and staying in love.
...that no matter the consequences, those who are honest with themselves get farther in life.
...that no matter how many friends you have, if you are their pillar you will feel lonely and lost at the times you need them most.
...that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.
...that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.
...that writing, as well as talking, can ease emotional pains.
...that the paradigm we live in is not all that is offered to us.
...that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.
...that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.
...that although the word "love" can have many different meanings, it loses value when overly used.
...that it's hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people's feelings and standing up for what you believe.
...that it's not what you have in your life, but who you have in your life that counts.
-Author Unknown
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quotable quotes
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"To try is to risk failure. But risk must be taken because the
greatest hazard of life is to risk nothing. The person who risks
nothing does nothing, has nothing, is nothing. He may avoid
suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn, feel, change,
grow, live, and love."
~unknown
"It has been my experience that folks who have no vices have very few virtues."
~ Abraham Lincoln
"live a life that others will remember years from now, NOT because it pointed to you but because of how it pointed to the One who made you."
~ Mark Hart, the Bible Geek
"we grow up learning to become self-reliant, but really we need to be God-reliant"
"we could learn a lot from crayons: some are sharp, some are pretty, some are dull, some have weird names, and all are different colors....but they all exist very nicely in the same box"
"never wound hearts that love u, never give them the endless pain, because wounded hearts are like roses that never bloom"
"there comes a time when we have to stop loving someone not because that person has stopped loving us but because we have found out that they'd be happier if we'd let go"
